Yes. Of course, you are!
We all are biased in some aspect or the other.
Because our minds are inherently biased and always trying to simplify things to make sense of them. In this process of simplifying, we may, many times become biased.
So what does it mean to be unbiased?
When you are unbiased, it distinctly reflects in your thoughts, your speech, and your actions.
YOUR THOUGHTS Being unbiased in your thoughts means
- Not taking your life for granted and being grateful for what you have every single day
- It means not judging someone from the looks or how he/she dresses up
- Questioning your motives before any major task or responsibility you take up. Asking yourself the difficult questions before any action
- It also means disciplining your mind to look at all possible & multiple points of view before taking a stand
Taking my example – I pray to GOD in the morning with all my faith while also read the book – ‘’The God Delusion – By Richard Dawkins’’ in the evening because I know when I am doubtful I am not being arrogant; I am being honest. I am being unbiased.
YOUR SPEECH Being unbiased in your speech means
- To listen more and speak less. It also means to speak up when all prefer to keep silent
- To not show off your articulation skills and speak only if you can improve the silence in the room
- It also means not siding with any one political party and taking out time to research on each to arrive at a reasonably informed viewpoint based on facts, evidence than mere perception
YOUR ACTIONS This is the most important part. You can fool people with what you are thinking or what you saying but not with how you behave and what you do.
Being unbiased in your actions means
- It means treating all with equal respect – be it your colleague, your family member or a janitor
- It means understanding that love and responsibility are two sides of the same coin. You can’t truly love without fulfilling your responsibilities, especially towards your loved ones. So you should take full responsibilities of your actions for yourself and for others
- It means not supporting your friend when you know he/she is wrong and taking the more difficult step to transform him/her rather than conforming
- It means reading a lot. Because you don’t know what you don’t know and the more you know, the more you realize you need to know
- It also means doing dishes in the evening when you come home tired of the day’s work because your spouse would also be equally tired – from office work or caring for your home (if he/she is a homemaker)
So the next question comes – How do you become unbiased?
”Intelligence is not only the ability to reason; it is also the ability to find relevant material in memory and to deploy attention when needed”
” Our comforting conviction that the world makes sense rests on a secure foundation: our almost unlimited ability to ignore our ignorance .”
You can become unbiased by trying every moment (till you internalize this habit) to see both sides of the coin.
It comes with patience.
It comes with genuine efforts to explore yourself and the world around you.
It comes with hard work and practice.
It makes you uncomfortable.
It makes you truthful.
It makes you courageous.
Being unbiased is a continuous process and a lifelong one.
You can never become completely unbiased. You can only become less unbiased as you proceed through this beautiful life.
Start with this realization that you are biased in certain aspects. Observe yourself and chip away the stereotypes, the prejudices that you have been holding and start making positive changes in your life.
Explore this animated book summary of ”Thinking Fast & Slow” – a book by Daniel Kahneman (Nobel Prize winner)
PS: Read the following books to improve the way you think about this aspect:
- Fooled by Randomness by Nassim Nicholas Taleb
- The Art of thinking clearly by Rolf Dobelli
- The Subtle Art of not giving a fuck by Mark Manson